self-love; love of the self

Not only others, but we ourselves are the „object“ of our feelings and attitudes; the attitudes toward others and toward ourselves, far from being contradictory, are basically conjunctive. With regard to the problem under discussion this means: Love of others and love of ourselves are not alternatives. On the contrary, an attitude of love toward themselves will be found in all those who are capable of loving others. Love, in principle, is indivisible as far as the connection between „objects“ and one’s own self is concerned. ― (1947a: Man for Himself. An Inquiry into the Psychology of Ethics, New York (Rinehart and Co.) 1947, p. 129.)

In the philosophic tradition you find a very clear that narcissism or egocentricity is something entirely different from self-love. Because self-love is love and in love it doesn’t make any difference who the object of my love is. I am a human being myself. Man must have an affirmative, loving attitude towards oneself. The egocentric person in reality is a person who does not love himself, and so he is greedy. In general a greedy person is a person who is not satisfied. ― (1991d [1974]: Therapeutic Aspects of Psychoanalysis, in: E. Fromm, The Art of Listening, New York (The Continuum Publishing Corporation) 1994, p. 188.)